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Why Is It So Hard To Live In The Moment And Stop Worrying

A lot of us are living in a constant state of fear missing out. We always depend on what we have plans, our future, our visions. With social media coming out, everything goes so fast, and if you are committing to create significant results in your life. A lot of them steal time and moment from you. 

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The biggest problem is that we think that happiness, joy, or fulfillment is in the future. Or it was in the past that we lost it. One of the things we do is that we missed out on the moment, and we don’t realize that happiness is right now. The only moment that we have is this moment. There is no other moment; the other moment is a promise, an idea. The past moment is over.

We live our lives as we have forever like there is a guarantee of tomorrow. However, you don’t know if there is another moment. When you live life from this is the only moment you have, you are living life form emergency, you are living life from you may not see them again. When you are doing, you are celebrating it, and you acknowledge it, and you can be present in it. 

What stop you from living the moment could be the guilt from the past. It could also be the anxiety of the past or the resistance of what you have been through. 

Embrace and accept where you are, that what happening right now is actually happening for you. That what happening right now is your benefit. Be grateful for being in a bad moment; it could be an amazing moment. Because your happiness is up to you, enjoying this moment is up to you. So you can embrace the moment and live in it that you are present.  

And what makes it unique is in the moment, how you are engaging.  

So many people are never present, connected, and they missed out. They do not even remember the conversation. There are so many moments that they are with somebody. Still, they were not present, present with the responsibility that they are creating. They always think that this is not it, and then they are stuck in a situation that they don’t want to be present. Because as long as they feel that this relationship is not the one, this career is not the one. They are putting all of their happiness on the results. 

As a result, they are miserable about it, complaining about it but not doing anything about it. They decide not to make a decision. So many people are unfulfilled because they are not doing what they want to do. If you are in a career that you are not all in, get out. What is your intention when you talk to your daughter, your coworker, your mother? So what’s the experience you want to create when you are with that person? 

So how can you practice living in the moment? There are some ways I found it incredibly helpful for you to enter the present moment.

  1. Breath Meditation
  2.  Watch your breath, and see how your body and mind react to it. 
  3. Feel the inner body, focusing your focus on the muscles or parts of your body.
  4. Touch ( focus on the simple act)
  5. Recite ( and quiet the mind)
  6. Awareness of silence
  7. Listen closely to words

Be in ownership in whatever moment you are within. You live, make every moment counts, that will evaluate your life. 

How To Use Isolation To Strengthen Your Mind

The moment your life changes is the moment that you turn your reasons of why you can’t into why you can.

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Revelation is looking at what is right in front of you. Most of the time is when there is a crisis, and if we just Stop sit and open our eyes. The path is revealed right in front of us.

For the most part, our thinking is born of obsessions and usually wraps up in a whole lot of junk from the outside… Past things, things that we projected to the future, things we saw on TV, stuffs that we heard on the internet, something that somebody said to us, most of our thinking is not serving us because it is not steeliness. Its a form of activities, not action.

We are built to continually compare ourselves to other people. We are always thinking of what the other person has; how we are in the relationship that we are getting as much attention as the other person. We started when we are children, are we getting more attention than our siblings from our parents. So we are continuously comparing ourselves in the brain, power, the status of the people around us.

When we are looking at the unhappiness, it is people who are one way another into a tunnel. They say the only way to live is this way… They are not happy with it, but it seems the only way… I have got to love this person, although it is not making me happy. I have got to do this job, there is a prison. I’ve got to live in this place though I don’t like it. We can unpick some of these things and say, “really?”. Is that absolutely necessary? Humans are brilliant at building themselves cages and throwing away the keys.

Better be really careful about the words that you tell yourselves. Because there shows how you view yourself, how you talk to yourself, how you look into the mirror, and how you perceive yourself. That is the same way you see the world, speak to the world, and get out of the world. So you better be careful the story you are going to tell yourself; how you feel about yourself. Otherwise, what do you gonna expect?

Each time you feel anger at your siblings or your mother or your friend for saying something that you misinterpreted. You will just say that your ego speaking. That these people weren’t saying something personal, but your ego is just always getting in your way, question it.

The origin of wisdom, according to the Greek, is Know Thyself.
One important thing is that you have to understand 95% of who you are is set on unconscious programs. And the first step is lighting a match in dark ways. If you want to become someone else, you need to be aware of who you are.

Knowledge, experience, wisdom, Philosophy. Initiate that philosophy, master it. Mind, body, soul, thinking, doing, being, learning with your head, applying with your hand, knowing it by heart. This is the journey of knowledge. Because when you learn that information, and you really study it. You are going to begin to see the world differently because your brain is changing.

Here what you got to do, you got to show up every day. When I was on the path, a path that just grows. People start jumping off the track over time. Kids, drugs, failures…It does matter excuses… But if you stay on that path and people are jumping off. You show up and guess what happens; you become the oldest guy in the way.

You learn to love yourself into the context of your relations with others. It is interactive. You need the right amount of self-awareness, but you also need to be in relationships because it is people who help you become more aware.

How you can change your circumstances by changing your attitudes. Your attitude towards life with determine what you get. If you are avoiding and hostile towards people, a hostile person will tend to create hostility around them.

Imperfection stops us, I don’t think we will easily overcome it. And indeed the quest to be immortal, to be free of blame issues, to be always correct, to say and feel the appropriate thing is in itself a full of madness. The best we accommodate ourselves in the conditions of life is by accepting: we are fraud; those around us will be fraud; we will make errors; those around us will make errors; we are largely in the dark. Therefore we need to go easy on ourselves and be generous towards others.

Somebody else tells you, “I too have gone through this”. That is why we read books that inspire us from other people who have also lost and found a way back and saw the light again and created new hope. We connect with someone and allow themselves to love again and have another child and start another business… What you go through it, but you have a sense that it is that thing called going through and that you can’t come out of it from another side. That there is HOPE.

You don’t suffer less, you suffer differently. And the most important thing is if you are not alone. Probably the most challenging thing in all our experiences is that the pain of suffering, loss, or ache is not to be alone.

You want to enjoy life. You want to love fate. And what fate meant things happen to you can’t control. You didn’t control over your parents are, you didn’t control which city you were born into what school you went to. You didn’t control whether you were born rich or poor, there is much you can’t control of is fate. Accept it for what it is, stop whining, and stop saying I want something else. Embrace your world and your life.

How to Stop Worrying What Other People Think Of You

How many of you hesitate to take actions because you worry what other people think of you? This make it like procrastination. It stops you from making decisions, it’s slows down your actions. It stops you from achieving your goal!

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When you are at 20s, you concern what other people think of you.

When you are at 30s, you care less about what other people think of you.

When you are at 40s, you realised that nobody is actually care about your at all!

When you realised that, most of their comments related to what they are dealing with their life. These people are reflecting their life stress on you and thats how they make their comment.

In fact, you can still care other people by not caring what they think of you. You can focus on providing what they need, bringing the value into society. At a result, you don’t need to worry and stress about other people’s comments any more.

Best and Easiest Banana Bread recipe

Its simply a dessert that every small and big kid loves.


2 eggs
1/2 cup sugar
1/2 cup of ( butter mix coconut oil)
3 Riped bananas
12oz (1.5 ) cup of all purpose flour
1 tea spoon baking powder
Pinch of salt

  1. Beat the eggs.
  2. Mix in with sugar, then oil
  3. Mix in the crushed Bananas
  4. Mix in salt, Flour, Baking powder
  5. Mix in Vanilla/chopped nuts ( optional)
  6. Put into the container with brushed oil on the side so that the cake come out easily after baking.
  7. Put into 325.F oven for 1 hour

The best Lasagna

Photo by Nugget Market

Rag’u Sauce:
8-10 Plum tomatoes
1 carrot
half onion
1 stick celery
1 pound minced beef
few sprigs of rosemary
2 tablespoon of balsamic vinegar
100ml of red wine
2 cloves of garlic

Roughly chopped onion ,garlic , fry in a large pan with medium heat with a little oil for 20 mins. When they are caramelised , add in minced beef Until the veggies are starting to caramelise , pour in the red wine and turn up the heat to cook it away. Add in tomatoes ,bay leaves, clove, along with water covered and simmer for 1 hour, then season to perfection.

Finely sliced garlic, Put into a large pan with oil with high heat, cook until garlic is lightly golden, stir in spinach and a good grating of nutmeg and cook for 15 mins.

White sauce
50g unsalted butter
50g plain flour
0.5 litre Semi-skimmed milk
30g Ricotta Cheese
30g whatever cheese

Melt the butter in a large pan over medium heat, then stir in the flour to form a paste. Whist in milk, a little at a time, and continue to heat until you have a thick white sauce. Remove from the heat , grate and stir in the cheeses, season to taste and add a grating of nutmeg.

Layers the instant lasagnas with rag’u sauce, spinach, white sauce and cheese for 4 layers in the oven pan and place on very bottom layer of oven with 350°F until bubbly.

You can also freeze the lasagna either baked or unbaked.

  • To freeze an unbaked lasagna: Line the pan with foil before assembling, then assemble the lasagna as directly. Let cool completely, and then freeze until solid. Once frozen, lift the frozen lasagna block from the casserole dish, wrap it in more foil, then freeze for up to a month.
  • To reheat an unbaked frozen lasagna: Remove the lasagna from the freezer and unwrap all the layers of foil. Transfer to the original casserole dish, cover, and let it thaw in the fridge overnight. Once thawed, bake as directed.
  • To freeze baked lasagna: Line the pan with foil before assembling, then assemble and bake as directed. Let it cool completely, then freeze until solid. Once frozen, lift the frozen lasagna block from the casserole dish, wrap it in more foil, then freeze for up to a month.
  • To reheat a baked lasagna: Remove the lasagna from the freezer and unwrap all the layers of foil. Transfer to the original casserole dish, cover, and let it thaw in the fridge overnight. Once thawed, warm the whole casserole (covered with foil) in the oven at 350°F until bubbly again.
  • To freeze and reheat individual slices: Cut the baked and cooled casserole into slices and wrap each slice individually in foil. Combine them in a freezer storage bag and freeze for up to 1 month. Thaw overnight in the fridge. To reheat, unwrap from the foil, place on a microwave-safe dish, and reheat in the microwave for a few minutes until bubbly.

Black Rice Pudding with Mango

Today I was organising the kitchen and then I found that 5 lbs Black rice staring at me in the shelf.
I need to do something about it in order to clear my stock.
Therefore I made Black Rice Pudding with my instant pot. My two-year toddler likes it.

Nutrition Side of this desert :
Black rice is a good source of protein, fat, and iron, it contains high levels of the antioxidant anthocyanin. Studies shown that black rice helps decreases dangerous atherosclerotic plaque formation in the arteries. This is very important for keeping arteries clear and preventing heart attacks and stroke.
Orange fruits and vegetables, such as mangoes, contain beta-carotene. They also suggest that it can boost the action of the immune system against disease.


1 Cup Black Glutinous Rice
1 3/4 Cups Water
Pinch of salt
1/3 Cup Maple syrup/Brown Sugar
1 can Aroy-D Coconut Milk

1. After clean and drain the black rice, Mix all ingredients together into the instant pot.
2. Put on regular brown rice setting and stir it occasionally.
3. After done, it can be served hot or cold.

A simple Breakfast recipe

Create your Oatmeal 

Base Choice 
Old Fashioned Oatmeal / Swiss Granola

Hot water or
Any Milk Choice
: Whole /skim
Soy /Almond / Coconut/ Oat/ Walnut/ Hazelnut/ Cashew/Yogurt

Almond Slices
Chia Seed

3 Strawberrys into Slices
Half sliced Banana

Maple syrup/Peanut Butter /Nutella/ Honey

Serves on Breakfast Bowl