Things I learn from Danlok
Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.
— Oscar Wilde.
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As a coffee shop barista for 8 years, 8 hours on foot per day. This quarantine and isolation period has completely turned my world upside down. In the past couple of weeks, I have been going through states of mind. From acknowledging the fact of not having a job, worrying about the coming couple months of financing my family, seeking help from different resources. Till now, I start to enter the state of peace in mind and knowing what I can do every single day.
It is tempting to watch the data about Cover-19. The more you search for the news, the more you feel anxious. In the first three weeks, I have been actively exploring the data every single day, and it only grows the anxiety within me.
Till one day, I understand that I have been doing what it needs to do to protect my family and the community. Spending time worrying and watching the news will not help to make the situation better.
I started a new routine to get the most out of it.
A New Routine to Make Better Use of Your Time from This Quarantine Period
How do you change your routine on this quarantine period? Share with us and comment below.
When it comes to learning, A lot of people say, “ I am not good at learning, or I am poor at memorizing things. “ There is no such thing as a good or bad memory. “ There is just a trained memory and an untrained memory.
Learning is about showing up and play full out. According to super memory coach Jim Kwik, there are 6 keywords to learn faster.
6 keywords to learn subjects faster and smarter
If you are interested to know more about learning, there are more practical ways to help you learn better. Click on the link below to my next article:
A lot of us are living in a constant state of fear missing out. We always depend on what we have plans, our future, our visions. With social media coming out, everything goes so fast, and if you are committing to create significant results in your life. A lot of them steal time and moment from you.
The biggest problem is that we think that happiness, joy, or fulfillment is in the future. Or it was in the past that we lost it. One of the things we do is that we missed out on the moment, and we don’t realize that happiness is right now. The only moment that we have is this moment. There is no other moment; the other moment is a promise, an idea. The past moment is over.
We live our lives as we have forever like there is a guarantee of tomorrow. However, you don’t know if there is another moment. When you live life from this is the only moment you have, you are living life form emergency, you are living life from you may not see them again. When you are doing, you are celebrating it, and you acknowledge it, and you can be present in it.
What stop you from living the moment could be the guilt from the past. It could also be the anxiety of the past or the resistance of what you have been through.
Embrace and accept where you are, that what happening right now is actually happening for you. That what happening right now is your benefit. Be grateful for being in a bad moment; it could be an amazing moment. Because your happiness is up to you, enjoying this moment is up to you. So you can embrace the moment and live in it that you are present.
And what makes it unique is in the moment, how you are engaging.
So many people are never present, connected, and they missed out. They do not even remember the conversation. There are so many moments that they are with somebody. Still, they were not present, present with the responsibility that they are creating. They always think that this is not it, and then they are stuck in a situation that they don’t want to be present. Because as long as they feel that this relationship is not the one, this career is not the one. They are putting all of their happiness on the results.
As a result, they are miserable about it, complaining about it but not doing anything about it. They decide not to make a decision. So many people are unfulfilled because they are not doing what they want to do. If you are in a career that you are not all in, get out. What is your intention when you talk to your daughter, your coworker, your mother? So what’s the experience you want to create when you are with that person?
So how can you practice living in the moment? There are some ways I found it incredibly helpful for you to enter the present moment.
Be in ownership in whatever moment you are within. You live, make every moment counts, that will evaluate your life.
The moment your life changes is the moment that you turn your reasons of why you can’t into why you can.
Revelation is looking at what is right in front of you. Most of the time is when there is a crisis, and if we just Stop sit and open our eyes. The path is revealed right in front of us.
For the most part, our thinking is born of obsessions and usually wraps up in a whole lot of junk from the outside… Past things, things that we projected to the future, things we saw on TV, stuffs that we heard on the internet, something that somebody said to us, most of our thinking is not serving us because it is not steeliness. Its a form of activities, not action.
We are built to continually compare ourselves to other people. We are always thinking of what the other person has; how we are in the relationship that we are getting as much attention as the other person. We started when we are children, are we getting more attention than our siblings from our parents. So we are continuously comparing ourselves in the brain, power, the status of the people around us.
When we are looking at the unhappiness, it is people who are one way another into a tunnel. They say the only way to live is this way… They are not happy with it, but it seems the only way… I have got to love this person, although it is not making me happy. I have got to do this job, there is a prison. I’ve got to live in this place though I don’t like it. We can unpick some of these things and say, “really?”. Is that absolutely necessary? Humans are brilliant at building themselves cages and throwing away the keys.
Better be really careful about the words that you tell yourselves. Because there shows how you view yourself, how you talk to yourself, how you look into the mirror, and how you perceive yourself. That is the same way you see the world, speak to the world, and get out of the world. So you better be careful the story you are going to tell yourself; how you feel about yourself. Otherwise, what do you gonna expect?
Each time you feel anger at your siblings or your mother or your friend for saying something that you misinterpreted. You will just say that your ego speaking. That these people weren’t saying something personal, but your ego is just always getting in your way, question it.
The origin of wisdom, according to the Greek, is Know Thyself.
One important thing is that you have to understand 95% of who you are is set on unconscious programs. And the first step is lighting a match in dark ways. If you want to become someone else, you need to be aware of who you are.
Knowledge, experience, wisdom, Philosophy. Initiate that philosophy, master it. Mind, body, soul, thinking, doing, being, learning with your head, applying with your hand, knowing it by heart. This is the journey of knowledge. Because when you learn that information, and you really study it. You are going to begin to see the world differently because your brain is changing.
Here what you got to do, you got to show up every day. When I was on the path, a path that just grows. People start jumping off the track over time. Kids, drugs, failures…It does matter excuses… But if you stay on that path and people are jumping off. You show up and guess what happens; you become the oldest guy in the way.
You learn to love yourself into the context of your relations with others. It is interactive. You need the right amount of self-awareness, but you also need to be in relationships because it is people who help you become more aware.
How you can change your circumstances by changing your attitudes. Your attitude towards life with determine what you get. If you are avoiding and hostile towards people, a hostile person will tend to create hostility around them.
Imperfection stops us, I don’t think we will easily overcome it. And indeed the quest to be immortal, to be free of blame issues, to be always correct, to say and feel the appropriate thing is in itself a full of madness. The best we accommodate ourselves in the conditions of life is by accepting: we are fraud; those around us will be fraud; we will make errors; those around us will make errors; we are largely in the dark. Therefore we need to go easy on ourselves and be generous towards others.
Somebody else tells you, “I too have gone through this”. That is why we read books that inspire us from other people who have also lost and found a way back and saw the light again and created new hope. We connect with someone and allow themselves to love again and have another child and start another business… What you go through it, but you have a sense that it is that thing called going through and that you can’t come out of it from another side. That there is HOPE.
You don’t suffer less, you suffer differently. And the most important thing is if you are not alone. Probably the most challenging thing in all our experiences is that the pain of suffering, loss, or ache is not to be alone.
You want to enjoy life. You want to love fate. And what fate meant things happen to you can’t control. You didn’t control over your parents are, you didn’t control which city you were born into what school you went to. You didn’t control whether you were born rich or poor, there is much you can’t control of is fate. Accept it for what it is, stop whining, and stop saying I want something else. Embrace your world and your life.
I was surprised that a lot of people set goals quickly. However a lot of us got less motivated with time goes by.
You may not be aware that in behind there are couple thing stops you from being motivated.
2. You reward yourself for everything.
It is good that you start with a reward system, but you are not firm with yourself. If you procrastinate, but you still reward yourself. An excellent reward system has to be positive rewards and negative punishment. Keep yourself in check.
How do you keep motivating yourself? Comment below.
When I was younger, I don’t know what it means to be grateful. No matter how much I have accomplished, its always this dissatisfaction that it is not never enough. It is almost like an emptiness inside. I didn’t know that it actually needs to learn to be grateful. Later in life, I learned that gratitude is an experience that something a lot of people crave for. Indeed, it is a deep sense of Joy that, unlike any other feelings you experience.
Unfortunately, most people don’t experience gratitude naturally. They are a little bit negative. Think around the people around you; they usually complain about the environment; they are not grateful or appreciate what they already have.
We need to learn how to be grateful and appreciate what we have today.
How do you be grateful? It is something that you have to work on. It is actually something that you actually have to spend time feeling and experiencing.
The best way I found to be grateful is that in the morning, I start off the day with a guided meditation. To focus on what I am thankful for, what could I be grateful for, even though I am going through some challenging time. The little things that you appreciate in life. Who are some of the people in my life that I am grateful for? All it takes is 10-12 minutes in the morning. By exercising that emotion and by digging deep.
When you start the day this way, it completely changes your life.
When you are grateful, you will not be fearful. All the stress that you experience in your life is because you focus on certain things. Maybe you are focus on negativity, lack. However, when you are grateful, you feel wealthy.
In the evening, you write on gratitude journal, write down 3 things of the day you are grateful for.
Until you documented it, it changes the games for you because it changes your mindset.
“Ideas are a dime a dozen. The person who puts them into action is priceless.” You don’t have to invent antigravity or faster than light travel. You must be different in some way. Most different products and services are just a small twist on an old idea. But they are different. Get ruthless about trying something different.
Be first or Be different. If you don’t change, then you can’t be different. Start an industry or change an industry. Do not merely copy an industry. The big slice of cake goes to those who create – the crumbs go to those who copy. The skill with the maximum shelf-life is creativity.
Is your idea weird enough? Trust your crazy ideas! Trust your instinct. Trust that and dream! “People who think they are crazy enough to change the world are the ones that do.” Apple computer. Do you have the guts to throw out today’s winning product when you get a better idea?
Before a brilliant person begins something great, they must look foolish in the crowd. How do you find an area in which to make you succeed? Seek out chaos and bring order to it. Master the chaos that controls our world.
Practice being super successful, even when you’re not!
Most people struggle to succeed because they are fearful of the unknown, and they are focus on fear.
“Courage is not the absence of fear. It is proceeding despite those feelings
“Failure is hard. But you know what? There are real payoffs if you can figure how to get over the fear of it, how to live with it, and ultimately how to push ahead.” Barry Diller
Comfort Zone: One’s image of “the way things are supposed to be.”
Super discomfort zone. Being uncomfortable and filled with dread, almost beyond your comprehension. E.g., for most people, public speaking, or life-threatening activities.
How to expand your comfort zone
1. Take a Limo to the airport next time you fly.
2. Hire yourself a good lawyer and a good accountant. ( They will give you proper advice that will get you out of comfort zone.)
3. Buy Clothes you can’t afford.
4. Join the best Club you can’t afford, Golf Club, etc.
How to master any skills you desire for 7 easy steps.
What have you done in the past in mastering your skills? Comment Below.
I was blown away with this new thoughts about money…
When it comes to money…
It’s fun to have ability to do lots of things but you have a choice not to do them.
Money is not the only way to measure success but its a way that everybody keeps track of.
“Most men and women lead lives of quiet desperation.”
Success leaves clues:
There is very small step from the limo to the gutter.
There is a very big step from the gutter to the limo.
Dedication, Perseverance, disipline.
Comment below on your newest thought about Money.
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